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Relationship Ebb and Flow


I’m going to preface this post by saying am not talking about any specific person. I am just speaking about what I have expierencied throughout my life, and how relationships you have with people are ever changing…….

When you were younger, did you have that one friend who was going to be your best friend forever? You couldn’t imagine a world without them in it beside you? Or that first love who you couldn’t ever see leaving? But I’ll almost bet, that in most cases, these people are barely even blips on your radar at this point. And now you are probably trying to think of how that happened, or in some cases you know exactly how because of the scar it left behind in your heart. 

Something that I’ve always struggled with is accepting that people change. You may be the best of friends at one point, or this is the knight in shining armor you always dreamed of, but when circumstances shift in life, so do these relationships. I’ve had many people ebb and flow into my life just like the tides of the sea. Sometimes they are close, and the connection you share is that of nearly a psychic nature. 

But as we grow and mature as the years go by, things begin to recede. As we begin to learn more about each other, things aren’t going together like peanut butter and jelly any more. You may react with someone you loved with your whole being like oil and water now. 

What this post is mainly about is that this is completely normal. I believe people show up in our lives At the times that they do to teach us something.Whether it be about ourselves, life, or relationships in general. But we have to learn how to treasure these moments and people for the time that we have them, and focus on what it taught us. We also have to know how to let go, and not let the separation ruin us as people. We must grow stronger from our expierences, not shut down from them.  To be sure though, you will have the few that stick around, and these should be treasured even more. 
I hope this helps anyone feeling the pain of a loss of some sort of relationship. I know this reflection helped me 💜

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Happy Hermit 🦀

Ok,  so the latest thing that has been on my mind is the fact that I am a type of person that seems to isolate themselves. Like a lot. It’s not that I don’t have the opportunity to go out and be around a lot of people at once, but sometimes the thought is overwhelming to someone like me. You’ll hear me say the phrase “it’s too peopley” all the time and I really do mean that. I prefer a quiet setting with my cat, over a crowded downtown club where I’m shoulder to shoulder with strangers any day of the week. Does this make me a hermit? I suppose, but I am a happy one 

When you do isolate yourself though, it does get a little lonely. And I feel like sometimes people don’t understand why I turn down going out and about, and can even get offended by it. I’m never trying to upset anyone, and it’s not that I don’t want to be around them, but sometimes my brain just can’t handle it. 

I grew up as a very shy child. It was painful for me to meet new people, and I usually ended up saying or doing the wrong thing. Maybe this is where part of my isolation habits began. Maybe it was because when I was younger if I made one of these social faux pas, kids were cruel, and would laugh at me and make me feel even worse than I did before trying to be social. Eventually I just stopped getting asked to go places, but ironically that hurt too. It’s never that I don’t want to be invited, and sometimes I do want social interaction, but people are quick to give up on the kid that alsways seems to say and do the wrong thing. 

Over the years of hurt and sadness, I learned that I can still control my happiness weather or not I’m always with the crowd. And I’ve also learned that it OK to ASK others what’s going on rather than to just assume that “no one wanted to invite you” if you’re usually the type who says no when they do. Maybe you’ll happily surprise them when you do go out at a time where you feel comfortable with it.

Isolation is my friend. I love to read a good book, cuddled up with my cat and do it dressed however I want with no one looking on to judge me. I love singing at the top of my lungs in the shower (poorly) and knowing that no one cares if I missed Freddy Mercurys high note……again. I love dancing around my room to a song and just being able to cut lose for those 3 to 4 minutes and the only person whoever sees it is my own reflection in the mirror. I love being able to meditate on life and reflect on everything that is going on with me. 

So if you are what is considered the anti social type, and you may be looked at as a weirdo for it, EMBRACE IT!!!! because what all of us happy little crabs hiding in our own shells know, is that while the rest of the world is out there trying to fit in and be “socially acceptable” we get to be our true selves. And then when we do leave our shell for a bit, our beautiful unique perfect us is what shows. 💜

1 week and I’m a Skinny Coffee Babe for life!!!


Holy amazingness batman! I have been using Skinny Coffee for 6 days and let me tell you. I AM IN LOVE!!!! 😍😍😍 let me give you all of the details and I only speak the truth. 

First of all the taste is GREAT! I’m a would you like some coffee with that creamer type of gir usually but I drink this coffee black. And I actually enjoy it that way! It has a great flavor that isn’t overwhelming so you are ok even without the cream. I brew mine in a mini French press so that would be my recommended method for everyone. 

Now I know if you’ve dabbled in the weight loss teas like I have, some of them can have a terrible stomach ache effect. There is nothing like that from the coffee. All I felt was a great boost of energy in the morning and a very happy belly. Definitely something you have to be happy about! 

Now the picture above shows my progress after 6 days. ONLY 6 DAYS!!!!! That’s insanity!!! There was also 2 lbs of weight loss in the first 6 days. I feel so much better and this is only the beginning. I really can’t believe how awesome this product is working. I will definitely continue to use it and may or may not have just ordered 3 more months worth 🙊

Check back after the full 28 day cycle to see the next update!!! 

Skinny Coffee? YES PLEASE!!! 

Ok guys. So how many weight loss teas have we seen on the market? Like a million right? Well I don’t know about you guys, but I’m a coffee drinker. Call it my Seattle blood but it just is my preferred beverage of choice to get myself going in the morning. 

Now I’ve tried some weight loss teas on the market before but this on really grabbed my attention because well, ITS COFFEE!!!! Skinny coffee is made from all organic ingredients and is quite affordable. It is made in the U.K. Though so if you’re ordering from America like myself, you will wait a little over a week to receive it. But don’t worry, it’s coming! And the shipping is free! 

I’ve started the 28 day trial as of this morning and I have to say the coffee tastes amazing! I prepared mine in a French press because of course. I am a bit of a snob sometimes when it comes to my coffee 🤗. I can also feel the difference in my energy level. I usually drink 2 to 3 cups of coffee every morning but it feels like I did that and I only had a single cup! We’re off to a good start on this one. The pic above is my starting point. I will review the difference after a week. Either way I’m excited to continue on this journey and really be a #SkinnyCoffeeBabe 💜💓

Happiness is a choice…… Choose wisely! 

So it has been quite some time since I have posted anything. And in that time I have retreated to do even more soul searching for myself. Sometimes you just need to hide out a a little in your own space to figure out What your soul needs to heal. The main lesson that I feel like the universe has been trying to teach me is that your own happiness is a conscious choice you make every single day. 

Have you ever had one of those mornings where you wake up and the first thing you think to yourself is negative? I know personally I am a culprit of this all the time. And it affects how my entire day goes! Just one simple thought can change everything. Waking up on the wrong side of the bed is a real thing. And in the last couple of months I’ve made myself think one happy thing in the mornings. This small change has affected my life greatly. But in all the right ways. I challenge you to try it too. 

My other suggestion to you is to find some way to meditate. Now, this doesn’t mean you have to do it in the traditional sense of the word. Find some activity that allows you to zone out from the world for a few minutes and get lost in your own thoughts. I use running as my time to do this, but there are many different things that could work. Even just heading out to a coffee shop to people watch. We never get alone time anymore. Especially with how extremely connected our smart devices keep us these days. So that’s the main key to a successful get away session, leave your phone behind! This personal time to listen to your soul everyday makes you that much more in tune with what you need on a spiritual level and can make all the difference. 

The power Of thought is real. And it can’t be ignored. Training my brain to be happy and think positively is changing my life. I don’t allow my happiness to be determined by outside forces anymore. I don’t give people the power to control my happiness either. If you start to take a small amount of your time to focus truly on making these changes daily, you can begin to find your true happiness too. It is still a work in progress and I am certainly not perfect myself, but I felt I needed to share just what has been going on in my brain 💜💓

Deja Vu

Do you ever have those moments where you are instantly teleported to a past time in your life? It can be triggered by any of the five senses. Something you see, touch, taste etc., then suddenly BAM! You’re back to feeling something oddly familiar. Well I just had one of those instances that happened to be triggered visually. It’s amazing how the internet works, and allows us to see things that we never would have otherwise…..

The part that is most fascinating to me is the stark contrast to my end feelings of the situation between now and then. I once would have reacted thinking there was something wrong with me, that I needed fixing. Too often we want to put ourselves down mentally, which really takes a toll. The worlds biggest critic really is ourselves. But sometimes it is unwarranted. Manipulated in a way………

Now I take a step back and I begin to smile. See, I realize that I am WORTHY. I realize that I am MORE. and I realize that I am a BEAUTIFUL person, inside and out. We all are. Every quirk, out of place, messy, angry, sad, happy thing about us is an amazing gift that we were given to let shine out and touch and inspire people….. 

The saddest thing is how many people are afraid to let their strangeness show; Are afraid that it will make them not be “good” enough, or that they won’t “fit in”. My intention of writing this is to encourage you to be 100% your true self. No one else can do it, and that is what makes existing so beautiful. Be proud of the things that make up you, the results can be incredibly surprising…… 
  

PMA

Those three letters. “Positive Mental Attitude.” Seems like it is something so easy to obtain. Yet here we are, grumpy and groggy heading to work or school, and keeping the positivity is so quickly lost. What is your automatic reaction if someone cuts you off while you are in a rush somewhere? Or if, God forbid, you drop your coffee immediately after purchase. Suddenly you feel your temperature rising and the anger ignites. Moments like these have the power to completely sour your mood for the remainder of the day, and when you really start to think about that, it’s fairly scary.
The expression “I woke up on the wrong side of the bed.” Is very real. But what starts to happen if we take a few moments to think positive and find the good in all situations? Yes you were cut off, but so much worse could have happened, and you are still going to get where you are headed regardless. And trust me when I say coffee is an essential to my day to day life, And when you finally get that first sip it is glorious. It really is a devastating feeling if you drop it and don’t get to enjoy the caffeine you went out of your way to stop and purchase that morning, But what happens if the clerk sees this happen and offers to make you a new drink free of charge? Or yes, it may not be the fancy new Macchiato on the block, but there is still a pot of hot coffee waiting for you once you get to where you are headed.
Life is tough. We face new struggles every single day and that is never going to change. It is part of the beauty of being alive. We have obstacles put in our way to make us stronger as human beings all around. It is how we behave when we face these challenges that makes all the difference. We are faced with a choice, To back down and let the problem win, ruin the rest of the day for us and cause us to check out and miss the beauty life has to offer. Or, we can choose to understand that these things will happen, there is a lesson to be learned in every situation, and to keep on smiling because that alone could change the course of another’s day for the better.