I’m going to preface this post by saying am not talking about any specific person. I am just speaking about what I have expierencied throughout my life, and how relationships you have with people are ever changing…….
When you were younger, did you have that one friend who was going to be your best friend forever? You couldn’t imagine a world without them in it beside you? Or that first love who you couldn’t ever see leaving? But I’ll almost bet, that in most cases, these people are barely even blips on your radar at this point. And now you are probably trying to think of how that happened, or in some cases you know exactly how because of the scar it left behind in your heart.
Something that I’ve always struggled with is accepting that people change. You may be the best of friends at one point, or this is the knight in shining armor you always dreamed of, but when circumstances shift in life, so do these relationships. I’ve had many people ebb and flow into my life just like the tides of the sea. Sometimes they are close, and the connection you share is that of nearly a psychic nature.
But as we grow and mature as the years go by, things begin to recede. As we begin to learn more about each other, things aren’t going together like peanut butter and jelly any more. You may react with someone you loved with your whole being like oil and water now.
What this post is mainly about is that this is completely normal. I believe people show up in our lives At the times that they do to teach us something.Whether it be about ourselves, life, or relationships in general. But we have to learn how to treasure these moments and people for the time that we have them, and focus on what it taught us. We also have to know how to let go, and not let the separation ruin us as people. We must grow stronger from our expierences, not shut down from them. To be sure though, you will have the few that stick around, and these should be treasured even more.
I hope this helps anyone feeling the pain of a loss of some sort of relationship. I know this reflection helped me 💜